Last week on American Idol, one of the judges made an off the cuff comment that EVERY leader would be wise to remember.
When asked about what happened to the first two people in the bottom three on the April 2, 2008 Results Show, Paula Abdul said:
“It comes down to — do they connect with the audience?”
Most major frustrations I’ve heard over the past 13 years around leading groups at a distance comes down to a single source — the level of connection the leader had with everyone on the call. Here’s the rule of thumb: the less connection, the greater the number of frustrations reported.
Connection is a simple concept to grasp yet many leaders report it is much more subtle and complicated to consistently maintain than they ever imagined. Toss in a few different behavioral styles, a little bit of politics, a touch of attachment by the leader, a dash of control, and you’ve got everything you need to disconnect and derail just about any group!
The next time you are part of a geographically dispersed group meeting and the productivity starts dropping fast — take a quick look around the virtual room. If you go deep enough, you’ll find that somewhere the connection on the call broke down.
How do you boost your ability to sense and build connection as a leader? Read anything on leading and working with people you find interesting and implement it slowly and step-by-step. Why? People freak out when you change something too fast — they will start to distrust you and that is not what you are seeking to do. Find mentors who you can model from. If you don’t know or respect anyone around you, buy one of my audio CD products until you do find a mentor. Finally, if you want to quietly develop your confidence and leadership style without making an issue of it at work, hire me to work one-on-one with you.
Just keep in mind that no matter what path you take, you are a unique leader and have got to learn and trust your own path.
Posted by Byron Van Arsdale
Author — 21 Ways to Screw Up a Teleclass
ConferenceCallTraining.com
